Talking To Your Kids About Sexual Sin

Whether we want to admit it or not, our sexual sin is all around our culture. It is in our TV shows, movies, music, and even in the magazines at the checkout line. It is also in our mobile devices. If we are not careful, our kids could stumble onto to site or app that they have no business being in.

The church a lot of times has been embarrassed about sex while the culture seems to not blush at any sexual content. The Bible is clear about sexuality and what God desires for His children in the area of sex. Parents, it is our job to discuss with our kids about not only God's design for sex but also for sexual sin. How do we do that?

Let me begin by saying the conversation must be age appropriate. You are not going to say things to a teenager that you would not say to an 8-year-old. This is where discernment comes in and seeking the Lord as you begin talking about sexual sin to your kids. Do not wait till their teenagers. Begin right now and ask the Lord for wisdom as you begin addressing this issue to your children.

As you begin talking with your kids about sexual sin, it is good that you show them what God desires for sex and have them ask questions. Be honest with your kids. I don't recommend dads talking with their daughters because that would become awkward so mom needs to step in. If you are a single dad raising your kids, find a mature sister in Christ that you can confide in that is willing to address these issues with your daughter(s) and the same thing for single moms with their sons, which in this case, maybe one of the elders.

What if you child is engaged in sexual sin? This is probably one of the biggest fears for Christian parents. Many parents have an idea on to handle this issue but to when it happens, they do the exact opposite. The first thing that we should not do if our child has been engaged in sexual sin is not go to them with guns a blazing. Do not march into their bedroom like a maniac because that will cause them to not be open and honest with even though trust has been broken at this point. We must approach our kids with gentleness and confront their sin in grace and truth. It may not be easy but this is the best way for your child to open up about the sin they have committed.

Next, even though they have committed sexual sin, remind them of the gospel. Remind them that God still loves them and has not abandoned them. Yes, there will be discipline, but God discipline those he loves. Parents, remind your kids how much you love them and they are still your child.

I know there are a lot of scenarios when it comes to our kids in dealing with sexual sin that would take a long time to write them. I hope to write more on this topic in the near future. The one thing to remember when addressing sexual sin is God's Word shows us His design for sex. He is the One who created it. He was not embarrassed about it and neither should His children. Parents, do not be afraid to talk about sex with your kids.