Showing posts with label Pornography. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pornography. Show all posts

Monday, February 3, 2025

Book Review: The Death of Porn by Ray Ortlund


The Porn industry is a multi-billion-dollar corporation that is views by all over the world. What was just behind the cash register at the local convenient store can now be seen on our smart phones. If one is not careful, it can even be seen on social media. 

Men and women (yes, women too) have fallen into the trap of this scheme by the devil with the "look but not touch" mentality. There are many who think this is safe when it really it is not. Pastors have stepped down from the pulpit because of this issue. Marriages have fallen apart even when one spouse to trying to imitate what they have seen on screen.

In The Death of Porn, Ray Ortlund attempts to help his readers that they do not have to be in bondage with the sin of pornography.  In this book, he writes each chapter as a letter saying things such as you are royalty because Christ is in you and the woman you are observing on screen matters to God because she is made in His image.

The subtitle to this book indicates this is more for men than women. To say that pornography is only something men struggle with is short sighted. Granted men are more prone for all fall into than women, but women also can struggle with porn just as men can.

As I continued to read this book, there are some suggestions on what men should do in the battle against pornography, however, I did not see anything about holiness or even killing sin. You would think there would the famous quote from John Owen, "Be killing sin or sin be killing you." Colossians 3:5 which, in the ESV, says put to death with is earthly in you, is not even quoted in this book.

Ortlund does compare those involved in the porn industry are slave, which I do not disagree, which he states that this is a justice issue. Do not get me wrong, we need to persuade the men and women involved in make porn to abandon, not because they are slaved in this industry, but they are under the wrath of God, and he will judge them for their actions. This is something I did not get from Ortlund's book. 

There is not even the mention of holiness. You think a book on porn would have a chapter or two on holiness but there is not. Yes, there is being an advocate against the porn industry, but there is nothing about fleeing sin or being holy. Thabiti Anyabwile, who wrote the Foreword, said Ortlund knows that we can defeat the "porn monster" by standing against "the wiles of the enemy in the truth of Jesus's gospel and the power of the Holy Spirit." I do not disagree, but Ortlund did not deliver on that.

As I read this book, I kept thinking is this how helpful others books I have read on sexual sin are compared to this one. Even the beginning of the book made me want to be sure I got the right book because I felt I was reading something from Joel Osteen because Ortlund was telling us men that we are royalty. Even Thabiti said we can "regain" our sense of royalty because of Christ renewing us in the image of God. Sorry, but I do not see anything in the Bible that Christ is restoring us to our sense of royalty which has cause me to feel sick just writing that statement.

I know there are many pastors and teachers who want to stand against the Porn industry but the one thing that we need to do is fight the sin within us. The Death of Porn is a book that will not be very helpful in the areas of holiness and sanctification.

I received this book from Crossway in exchange for an honest review.

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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Book Review: Finally Free by Heath Lambert

Pornography is an ongoing struggle for many in the church today. It is an ongoing struggle for those who lead the church today. I am reading that during a Promise Keepers rally for Pastors, the question was asked, "how many of you viewed a porn site a week before coming here?" About 90% of the room, filled with pastors, raised their hand.

What are ways that men can overcome their struggle over pornography through the lens of the gospel without being very moralistic about it? Heath Lambert shares eight gospel-centered strategies in his book, Finally Free. Before he shares those strategies, he writes about grace. Christians need to know that grace is the fundamental in dealing with not just the sin of pornography but all sin in general.

The eight strategies in dealing with pornography are:

1. Sorrow, godly sorrow to be more precise

2. Accountability

3. Radical Measures

4. Confession

5. Your spouse (or singleness), which I am glad he writes to single people in this book as well.

6. Humility

7. Gratitude

8. Dynamic Relationships

Now I know I am not doing any justice to the book by summarising what Lambert is saying, but this book is a book needed for our time. With the access to the Internet via smart phones and coffee shops with WiFi connections, pornography can be easily accessed more now than ever before. Pornography has destroyed marriages as well as a pastor's ministry. There are not many churches ready to help men to fight their sin especially through the gospel. This is a book I highly recommend all men to read even you do not struggle with pornography.

Thanks Booksneeze for letting me review this book.

Thursday, March 8, 2012

This Pornographic Life

This is a devotional I received from Tabletalk magazine through e-mail complements of BibleGateway.com written by Chris Donato:

Well, you've done it again. Once more, you find yourself looking where you ought not. And this you have willfully done. Yes, you've begged God to remove this blight, these gross desires. You even made some headway. But you've gone off and done it again. Forget confession, God doesn't want to hear that same old prayer, especially not when you know you'll be breaking your commitment before long. On the other hand, maybe God doesn't care that much about all this. After all, He made you; He knows your natural desires, He knows what you need. Why would He make you this way and get all worked up when you act on it? It's not that big of a deal; He doesn't think you need to confess.

Well, you couldn't be further from the truth - on both counts.

We've just taken note in our last daily study how marriage is under attack (and, incidentally, we'll study in the coming days the importance of the vows we take). It is under attack from all sides, not least from within. Our failure to recognize that life is not about being happy but about bringing glory to our God, leads even us Christians to botch marriage up. And a great deal of this botching up comes by way of our society's addiction to pornography.

A quick glance reveals a few surprising statistics (taken from the Internet's Filter Review):

• 89% of porn is created in the United States.

• $2.84 billion in revenue was generated from U.S. porn web sites in 2006

• $89 per second is spent on porn

• 72% of porn viewers are men

• 260 new porn sites go online every day

This, of course, doesn't take into account the sex industry as a whole, which topped at around $13 billion in 2006. In the case of the Internet, this means that any and all types of pornography can be easily accessed, with spouses none the wiser - in this case, mostly wives. For those not willing to pay for such thrills, the number of free sites is equally staggering. All of this amounts to the ruin of the marital relationship - in the case of single men and women, before it even comes into fruition.

There was a time when pornography was a luxury reserved for the upper echelon, and there was a time, more recently, when one had to drive to a sleazy part of town, walk into a certain section in the video store, or ask the clerk behind the counter in order to find pornography. It was public. But no longer. All that has changed. Everyone can afford it now, and in the privacy of one's home too. And even though there are many "free" web sites out there, the cost is never free, for the toll it takes is destruction itself.

The reason for this is simple, and Scripture speaks to it clearly. When the Creator God commanded Adam and Eve to take care of His earth, part of that calling involved sexual intimacy (Gen. 1:28). Indeed, because woman was "taken out of man," a man therefore "shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (2:23-24 ). Holding fast, or cleaving, unites them as they become one - physically. At the least, this involves sexual intimacy, and it provides a wonderful picture of God's covenant commitment to His people as well. It ought not surprise us, then, that upon breaking God's command Adam and Eve became ashamed of their nakedness (3:7).

From the narrative of Genesis to the poetry of Solomon's Song, we see that God has created and values sexual intimacy within the context of marriage. Saint Paul also assumes as much in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 when he writes of the mutually satisfying and God-glorifying intimacy between husband and wife, which models the very love Christ has for His bride. But all that can be trashed in moments. This is why the use of pornography is so dangerous - it's an act of hatred toward the spouse, toward the community of believers, toward the very God who has called us to covenantal commitment.

Like any addiction, it requires more from us the more we use it, which is why it cannot be dealt with alone, nor can it be ignored once confession has been made. Slaves are not freed on their own. Confession, repentance, accountability, openness with the spouse, and counseling must come into the equation. There is no quick fix for this, just as there are no quick fixes for the killing off of our sin in its entirety. Only through the everyday, rote, pursuance of the healing power of God's grace - in participation with other believers - can we avail ourselves to this cause.

This pornographic life must begin on our knees, agonizing over what God would have us do to deepen our love for Him, for our spouses, for our fellow believers, and, finally, for a world that hates our God, and us, by flaunting its twisted view of sex in our faces, in our children's faces, and in the face of our God, the Creator.

Chris Donato is senior associate editor of Tabletalk magazine.

INTO the WORD daily Bible studies from TableTalk Magazine, Matthew Studies. Copyright © 2008 by Ligonier Ministries.

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